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„Sprich with my mir!“: Nicht nur der Haushalt can be in Partnerschaften zum Streitthema. A couple therapist works on the phenomenon of ’emotional work’.

As you look into your own life, as you talk and give thanks through others, think of a reflection or conversation about the feeling you have, it is an ’emotional work’. Geprägt hat diesen Begriff de Soziologin Arlie Hochschild in de 90-Jahren. You want to describe who robs in his job emotions. Zum Beispiel, if you are fresh in your work at Laune, stop.

“Frauen in heterosexuals are more concerned with their emotional work,” says Yvonne Beuckens BuzzFeed News Germany von IPPEN.MEDIA. You have a psychology degree and have been studying in Bad Nauheim (Hesse) as a couple therapist for 16 years. The phenomenon is not new, it is the first time that the years break through.

“Before the war is a versorgungsgemeinschaft and a few that are clearly defined, there is a large gemeinsam gewirtschaftet hat,” said Beuckens. Hey, that’s different. If it is no longer the case that there is a living space, there is a community, so who can still live.

“Hot men are spread out by the money the house has made, both with each other and with new refreshments without ambiguity.” So a waste of emotional work and the house, weiter in his wife. One sister, one who is unbringed by others, who over-orders others.

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Was the woman of the opinion that the emotional case was inevitable?

The Grund für dit Ungleichheit sees psychology, that is, the 30 to 60 year old men who socialize differently as the glleichaltrigene Frauen. “Auch new studies are said: young people are less likely to be brought into contact with their vocabulary and they are able to interpret their emotions,” said Beuckens.

If you understand the biological aspects of your knowledge, you will be responsible for it. “Viele sind der Meinung, die Unterschiede seien hauptsächlich soziologischer Natur. Others are the hormones of the cooking hormone and the testosterone of the cracking hormone, such as the couple therapy treatment. “Because of this, the women fell because of their hormonal conditions, so they will be able to grow.”

Was the woman of the opinion that the emotional case was inevitable? “I must be very grateful: I am more than happy with my responsibility,” said Beuckens and said that we would all have a “Lieblingsreaktionen af ​​Herausforderung”. It’s often the case that women come together and have empathy. If there is no art left, there will be problems. “I dare to start with distances or with deviant reactions,” says the Psychologin.

If in a few times you experience the third line: “If I became emotional, it is the first time that Mal Zufall occurred, while I was a little mache mir a grateful Eselsohr and was first challenged when I talked about it.”

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Emotional Work: “We live a moment in a Paradigm Wechsel”

Damit Manner and Frauen in Zukunft both have emotional work experiences, must have Eltern of heute Vorbilder sein. “Children have a positive attitude towards their well-being,” says the Psychologin. „Wirleben da momentan een Paradigmenwechsel.“ The mark is also, that the Thema Mental Load (also invisible Work) in the Beratungen zunehme.

The best couple, with children, befänden themselves in a “Spannungsfeld” between them, was that they had learned and they were for the right stops. “Gleichzeitig became a young person who is conservative and wants to have individual structures,” he said. Zum Beispiel de Trad-Wives, who are now a Haushalt and Familie kümmern.

Problematic? Die Psychologin verneint. “Wir müssen von diesem Problem-thinking come away: That’s a partner more in emotional themes hereingeht and oneer here ausgleichend wirkt, cann sehr wertvoll sein,” he said. So both, as is the case with others, inspire your unjustified problems. Nur ob es immer de Frau sein muss, the emotional lies – can a man stretch himself.